Today is Thanksgiving in the United States of America. Centuries have passed since the first giving of thanks to God for survival and bounty that He granted to the first English settlers of the North American continent, and, while the holiday has become a mainstay of the larger American culture, the meaning has been lost in the rush to meet deadlines, the crush at the supermarket to buy the biggest and best meal ever, and the rudeness in traffic on the way to see family and friends. And we have become so self-centered as a people that there have arisen groups who will do anything and disrupt life for others simply because they can’t have what they “want” or what they “believe” to be their right.
I’m glad that I was born at just the right time and in just the right place to have experienced the life that I’ve lived; however, I am ashamed of my fellow Americans particularly this year because of the lives of denial which so many are living. I’ve lived long enough and worked among enough levels of socio-economic diversity to see how each level lives and views the others. I’ve watched as children at all levels of the socio-economic ladder have been given trophies and gifts for simply showing up, even when they lose a game or contest. I’ve watched poor performers garner favors from their friends in high places and abuse the privilege beyond measure. I’ve watched helplessly as people’s homes and businesses have been destroyed because those who wield political and social power incite violence and hate for the sake of perpetuating their own prosperity at the expense of those they propose to help.
At this time of year I’ve also seen many who have never met people such as the single mom whose business was destroyed in Ferguson, Missouri, come to her aid and provide a huge sum of money with which to replace that which was lost at the hands of ignorant, entitlement-minded people who have never met Jesus and surrendered their lives to his Lordship. Had they done so, rather than planning to wreak havoc through fire, breaking glass, robbery and other violent acts they would have taken the time to ask themselves what they can do within their own families to stop the cycle of black-on-black violence and to teach their children, neighbors, friends and families how to become positive contributors to their local communities. They would look for ways to teach the sons to respect women so that they would marry them BEFORE fathering children and then stay with their families in order to instill the values of love, personal responsibility, respect and faith in Christ into their children so that the scourge of the early death for young black men would end.
I’ve viewed some very powerful videos made by some very enlightened black men over the past week and seen the wisdom and intelligence in their words. They call upon others of color to stop blaming everything on slavery and the white man. I couldn’t agree more. From the genealogical records I’ve been able to collect I’ve discovered that my own family were when they arrived on the shores of North American centuries ago. They had sold themselves into slavery in order to buy passage and secure work in America because of the persecution and starvation they faced in Europe. The family eventually included ministers of the Gospel of Jesus Christ and people who were sharecroppers. I have yet to find records that show land ownership until the 20th Century. My father’s generation was the first to see a college graduate, apart from, perhaps, those who took the roles of pastors.
My own life has been one of financial struggle and endless attempts to find better positions in which to earn a more lucrative living than what I now enjoy. I live in a neighborhood that it much worse than those where my parents and brothers live. Drugs are a common pastime/job for many of my neighbors. Tuesday morning someone set fire to a neighbor’s SUV as it sat just 5 feet from their front porch. My wife is always concerned when I leave her alone in the house because of the types of people who have approached us in our own front yard. She is frightened for her safety, as am I. I believe that, at some point, we will be able to leave this house for a better one in a neighborhood where people respect their neighbors and don’t continually try to steal from them or vandalize their property.
Add to all of this the struggle that I have to leave behind the remnants of the sexual and emotional abuse I suffered as a toddler by babysitters and in my adolescence by peers and I wonder at the profound love that God has for me that He would continue to sustain me in the midst of it all. I’ve been so glad to begin adding men and women to my collective list of friends whose goal is to see me grow in my relationship with Jesus, and to, thereby, become the man I was created to be. I could always sit back and say to myself that I was “born gay”, but I don’t believe that. I could embrace an identity as a homosexual man, but I wholeheartedly reject the premise of “born gay” so I consequently and quite thoughtfully reject that idea, as well. Do I experience same-gender attraction? Yes. Do I experience same-gender fascination? Yes. Does that necessarily mean that I must act on those feelings? No. I have the freedom to act on whatever feelings I have. I may be angry with someone for cutting me off in traffic. Does that give me the right to harm or kill them? Absolutely not! Does a heterosexual man have the freedom to have sexual relations with just any woman to whom he feels a sexual attraction? Yes. Does his obligation to his wife trump that freedom? In my view, and according to the Scriptures I’ve studied, it most certainly does. If a man does not find a wife does he have freedom to have sexual relations with anyone he wants to? Yes. Will he one day answer for such behavior? Yes.
These are my informed opinions since I reject Post-Modernism and Secular Humanism as driving forces in my life. I embrace the Son of God as both real and necessary to my life. Are there people I know to whom my beliefs are repugnant? Yes. But I don’t particularly care what they think. Why? Because I don’t worship them nor do I require their approval to have my own opinions and keep my own counsel. I have taken the time to examine the cases set before me both for and against a life of homosexual love and behavior and found the argument for it to be lacking in one very essential area: submission to the Holy Spirit in every action.
The Holy Spirit is given as a counselor and a comfort to teach us what God wants us to know and to do. If I take His teaching seriously I am unable to square “marrying” and having a monogamous relationship with another man with the concept of “be fruitful and multiply”. Adoption is not multiplication, though it may bear much good fruit. Adoption is the taking of an existing human being and re-positioning them into a different relational proximity. If I marry a man and we adopt children we have not multiplied ourselves, we have conducted relational re-positioning. If we use a surrogate mother to have children we have not multiplied ourselves, only one of us has multiplied himself in that particular child or those particular children. Never will the two of us be able to join our seed simultaneously with the egg in a woman or a laboratory dish in order that the child or children are of both of us. That is only possible in an opposite gender joining.
On this Thanksgiving Day I am thankful to have been born in America, taught the Truth of the Gospel of Jesus Christ and to have married a woman of foreign extraction and moved forward in our mutual love of God and His Christ. I look forward to the bounty with which we have been and shall be blessed by the hand of the omnipotent God of all creation alongside my wife and hope to someday make a significant contribution to the lives of others who struggle as do I. Until then I will wish you all, whether you agree with me or not, a very Happy Thanksgiving.